This One Idea Can Make Your Marriage Flourish

July 9, 2013


Ancient Cistern: Dig a deep one for your marriage

God wants your marriage to be joyful.

He wants your marriage to succeed. He wants to bless you through it. When Jesus came to earth, He faced a society much like our own in how they treated marriage. Jesus took the time to correct the common thinking of the day and reinstate God’s original design. Read Matthew 19:1-9 and pay attention to the simplicity of what God intended. God created marriage. It stands to reason that He knows how it works. Since God wants you to have a successful marriage and knows how it works, you can expect the Bible to say something about how to develop it. And that’s exactly what we see. In fact, the Bible contains so much that we will just look at one idea.

Treasure Your Spouse

Drink water from your own cistern, And running water from your own well. Should your fountains be dispersed abroad, Streams of water in the streets? Let them be only your own, And not for strangers with you. Let your fountain be blessed, And rejoice with the wife of your youth. As a loving deer and a graceful doe, Let her breasts satisfy you at all times; And always be enraptured with her love.

(Proverbs 5:19)

This is a great passage to look to for marital advice. Love in a marriage is like an underground reservoir made to hold rainwater. It holds as much as its size allows, so build a large one by building a solid marriage. The symbolism of the passage represents the happiness that a spouse can bring. The advice is to cherish what you have. If you will appreciate your spouse and respect the love of your spouse, this will help bring happiness to the home. Like all other parts of love, the decision to treasure your spouse is first a decision. You must make the decision to find the good in your spouse and treasure it. It’s not going to cure every problem you have, but it will serve as a great foundation upon which to build. You were not forced into marriage. You chose to be married. If you have difficulties, remember the things that attracted you to your spouse. Choose to become enraptured again. Find the things about your spouse that are good and lovely. Your marriage is the cistern that can hold vast quantities of love for you. Drink from it.

What can you do to cherish your spouse and become enraptured again?

Here are some practical ideas.

  • Spend time together without interruptions.
    • Leave the phone at home and go for a walk.
    • Turn off the TV and look at each other.
    • Play a game together that will allow you to interact.
  • Look at the good things.
    • Make a list of what your spouse does that you enjoy.
    • Make a list of your spouse’s best characteristics.
    • Don’t focus on the things you want to change. Focus on the things that are good and pleasant.
  • Pray for your spouse.
    • Pray for his or her benefit, not your own.
    • Pray that your spouse will be blessed by you.
  • Remind yourself of your love daily.

What else would you add? Start the conversation below!

About Jason Sparks

I am passionate about spreading the Gospel. God has blessed me with a wife and two children. I have been preaching full time since graduating Brown Trail School of Preaching in June, 1999 and also have an MA from University of Phoenix.

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